Jealousy is a complex emotion that can profoundly impact our relationships and personal growth. Whether you’re navigating open relationships or simply seeking to understand this emotion better, diving into jealousy can lead to a more fulfilling life. This article explores the roots of jealousy, its triggers, and practical steps to transform it into a tool for self-discovery and empowerment.
Why Jealousy Matters in Relationships
I’m really grateful to be here with you talking about one of my favorite topics which is jealousy. You may know that I love this topic part of it is because it has part of it is because it’s essential I think to dive into this topic and really take it seriously and take our relationships with jealousy seriously to have a thriving amazing life no matter what part of it is because as choosing to have open relationships which is what this channel is focused around I have really had to dive into it. My journey with jealousy has been probably the most profound Journey Of My Life the most life-changing the most fruitful the most worthwhile and I genuinely want other people to be able to experience the fruits of jealousy and not just like the sour rotten apples of it to give you a pretty bad metaphor yeah.
The Healing Jealousy Program: A Resource for Transformation
I’ve designed a program it’s called The Healing jealousy program I’d love for you to check it out you can visit our website connorbrittany.com and navigate to courses go down to Healing jealousy there’s lots of options for you if you’re interested in the program you can get on a payment program payment yeah payment program or you can just buy it outright. The number the hundreds of people like that have been going through this program there’s no lack of feedback I’ve gotten about just how life-changing it has been. I’ve personally been working with a lot of Partnerships and individuals who are navigating jealousy while also in coaching containers with me and we utilize the jealousy program for its many resources as well and just again these like I get these life-changing messages from people that are just like sobbing you know feeling so seen so supported in ways that they didn’t know were possible. So if this is something that you are struggling with something that maybe you’re okay with but you want to dive into deeper something you want to support a partner in I highly recommend checking out the healing jealousy program.
What Triggers视角
So what I’m specifically going to be talking about today is one of the main reasons that I think jealousy gets triggered like what is actually going on. One of the main reasons I think that people experience jealousy is that they are not doing what they truly want with their own time and energy. This is one of the main reasons that jealousy would surface for me and in this video I’m going to use the blanket term jealousy but as you’ll see early on in the healing jealousy program I really invite you to dive in to this word that refers to a composite emotion it’s really an emotion made up of many different things and understand what is what is behind this word jealousy that you’re using like what actually are you feeling at that time is it you know fear um comparison anxiety sadness um Etc et cetera there’s so much and and as I said in the program there’s exercises to help guide you through that but for the sake of this video I will say jealousy although in the course I really highlight the power in not just referring to jealousy but rather getting to know yourself on a deeper level.
Unpacking Jealousy: A Deeper Look
But in using this blanket term jealousy why is it that we often feel jealous I found this to be true for myself and also for many people is that yeah if jealousy is coming up for us it’s just that we’re not doing what we want with our own time and energy and especially in poly Dynamics the person that we’re focused on or the people we might be focused on are and that really like that really grinds our gears I know this is true for me. So personal example Connor um when Connor and I were in the earlier days of our relationship and jealousy was like regularly strong for me I would often ask myself like is it that I want to be with them right now like say he was connecting with another lover like do I want to be with them right now hmm no that’s not it okay do I wish that he were with me right now um no that’s not it I actually really love the time and space by myself where I could go do a number of things I want do I fear that like he’s going to leave me for this partner which is you know maybe that’s a valid fear that might be coming up that’s another topic we could explore but for the sake of this video like okay no that’s not what was coming up.
Identifying the Root of Jealousy
But it was like oh is he living his truth this his truth in this moment in a way that I feel envious of like am I wanting to be living my truth in this moment and maybe that’s like the specific moment or maybe it’s like my life at Large because when other people are choosing their own freedom and making decisions based on what like resonates with their hearts desires and we aren’t it triggers the heck out of us and that is one of the main sources I’ve found of jealousy. So if you’re feeling like this resonates with you what you can do is when you notice feeling triggered by what somebody else is doing and it could be a partner or a metamor or it might be a friend it might be a colleague if jealousy is coming up for you around this think about like okay clearly I am Desiring that type of Freedom clearly I’m Desiring to be living my truth what is it you know what is alive for me what is it that I’m not doing or if you can’t access that first you could think about like what am I doing that irks me what am I doing with my time and energy that I don’t want to be doing that’s oftentimes like what ticks people off the most is like you know these people are doing what they want to be doing they’re taking care of their needs they’re feeling abundant they’re having fun but I don’t I don’t feel abundant I feel like I feel stuck I feel like I have to do this I have to do that like it’s not what I want to be doing with my time.
“Jealousy reveals our unfulfilled desires for freedom and authenticity.”
Transforming Jealousy into Self-Discovery
And now when this was coming up for me my life was not set up like that I really I had an expansive free life I still do that’s really important to me but there were elements there were elements I wasn’t experiencing there were ways I wasn’t honoring my truth that I needed to get in touch with and this was like the most powerful Awakening and I love this I love how the world is a mirror for us and things that might be really bugging us about someone else are actually things that we want it’s just that I want what you have but I don’t want the specific thing you have I want the feeling that I perceive you’re having I want the feeling of freedom I want the feeling of abundance I want the feeling of being desired by someone I want the feeling of lust I want the feeling of like electricity and passion and turn on within my veins and what I do with that creativity maybe that’s what I’m wanting maybe I’m wanting the feeling of deep connection whether that be with myself or another being or a hobby or a creative Pursuit and it always always has to start from within which is why jealousy is such a journey in the self it’s always going to lead us back to ourselves which is why it’s so intense sometimes to dive into those feelings of self and self-worth and the Shadows that have been lurking in there the ways we haven’t been saying yes to ourselves jealousy really highlights that but because we feel so powerless not being able to control the external it’s the most powerful time to turn to the internal so where are you not saying yes to yourself what feels icky what parts of your life are feeling like meh or maybe uh and what do you want to what do you want to be doing with your time and energy do that do that take steps towards that in any way possible yeah.
“Jealousy is a mirror reflecting our deepest unfulfilled desires.”
Practical Steps to Overcome Jealousy
There are just there are so many ways that we can light ourselves up it can be something as simple as taking a walk or taking some extra time and space to breathe between activities to reconnect with ourselves or it can be signing up to be a part of a community or like going out and doing something that you know you love it could be treating yourself to a massage once a month something you’ve been wanting to do it could be choosing to take time for yourself in Partnership maybe you’re you’re regularly on the like on the fear defense because say your partner’s dating someone else and you hear about them you know and maybe they’re like you’re waiting which is a whole other video topic I’d love to dive into but like you’re fearing they’re going to tell you about okay I’m hanging out with my lover and then you’re like oh great you know I’ll be alone but maybe instead you’re like I’m gonna create some special time for myself you know on my own terms you could even ask them like hey I’d really love to drop into this time by myself and something that would help me is if like if you could let me know a good time where you wouldn’t be hanging out with that other person so I could like you know be even more focused on just me.
Support and Resources for Navigating Jealousy
There are a million tools there are a million tools and and this is what I love helping clients with so whether through the healing jealousy program or working with me one-on-one I would love to connect with you about this about relationships in general about your relationship with yourself and how you can show up more for you and the life you truly want to be living because when we live when we live through this like inspired Channel within ourselves everything is possible Everything feels good we are innately abundant we are love we know that and the external realities that we attract are wonderful and things like conversion feeling Joy about another person’s Joy like truly feeling love for your partners other partners or lovers like it is innate because we are that channel we are living in the center of our life and if we’re not the littlest thing will let us know so this is really a powerful portal for you if you choose to walk through it and I would love to like absolutely love to be there supporting you look down below in the description there’s a link to connect with me for a free 25-minute call there’s a link to do a full session you can learn more about my monthly and three or six month programs and you can check out the jealousy program love you so much thanks for being here.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
What is the main cause of jealousy in relationships?
One of the main reasons that people experience jealousy is that they are not doing what they truly want with their own time and energy.
How can I deal with jealousy in an open relationship?
You could even ask them like hey I’d really love to drop into this time by myself and something that would help me is if like if you could let me know a good time where you wouldn’t be hanging out with that other person so I could like you know be even more focused on just me.
What does jealousy reveal about personal desires?
Things that might be really bugging us about someone else are actually things that we want it’s just that I want what you have but I don’t want the specific thing you have I want the feeling that I perceive you’re having I want the feeling of freedom I want the feeling of abundance I want the feeling of being desired by someone.
How can the Healing Jealousy Program help with jealousy?
The Healing jealousy program offers exercises to help guide you through understanding the composite emotion of jealousy and getting to know yourself on a deeper level.
What are some practical steps to overcome jealousy?
There are so many ways that we can light ourselves up it can be something as simple as taking a walk or taking some extra time and space to breathe between activities to reconnect with ourselves or it can be signing up to be a part of a community or like going out and doing something that you know you love.
How does living authentically reduce jealousy?
When we live through this like inspired Channel within ourselves everything is possible Everything feels good we are innately abundant we are love we know that and the external realities that we attract are wonderful.
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