Namaskar, Hi everyone, welcome back, today I’m going over things that will make a woman think about you non-stop. Most videos I’ve seen on how to build attraction come across as pretty manipulative, which I don’t like at all. So, I wanted to put a healthier spin on this: How can we naturally build attraction? How can we avoid coming on too strong? How can we leave a little to be desired? There are small shifts you can make to naturally build attraction without forcing it. At the end of the day, I want you guys to be authentic and show up as your best self. If you’re new to dating and watching videos telling you to act a certain way, it can be confusing and lead to self-sabotage. When you build attraction naturally, she can’t help but think about you when you’re apart—I’ve definitely been there! Certain things make you memorable, and we want to use what you already have to put your best foot forward. So, how do you do that? Let’s dive into my five tips!
Tip 1: Be Attentive to Make Her Feel Special
Number one is to be attentive. There are a few points here I want to touch on. First, listen and remember what she says. Being attentive to small details makes you stand out in a good way. Women are incredibly attentive to detail, so we notice when a man does this too. Be present and give her your full attention when you’re together. If you’re stuck in surface-level conversations, there’s nothing meaningful or memorable about that. Instead of thinking about what you’ll say next, listen to what she’s saying. This leads to deeper, better conversations.
The secret recipe for a memorable date is a good conversation. I’ve done an entire video on how to have a good conversation with a woman—if you don’t know where to start, check it out! I’ll link it in the description below. Be present, have deep conversations, and remember something she says. Bring it up later when texting or the next time you see her, and she’ll be impressed. It shows you’re genuinely interested and makes you stand out.
Tip 2: Be Independent to Build Attraction
Number two: Independent equals attractive. The last thing you want is to be needy or clingy—it’s a surefire way to kill attraction and send her running. Have your own life going on—your own purpose, passions, hobbies, and interests. You shouldn’t rely on others to provide that for you. As a woman, it’s incredibly attractive when a man has his purpose and passions, enjoys what he does, and shares that with you. The more aligned you are with what brings you joy, the less needy you’ll be because you know you’re fine on your own.
If you’re good at something or enjoy certain activities, don’t be afraid to share that—it’s attractive when a guy is skillful or interesting. I’ve done a video on how to be more interesting, and a key point is to do more things in life—it makes you more engaging! Another aspect of independence is having boundaries. Know you wouldn’t drop everything to see her. That sounds romantic in movies, but it’s not healthy early on. For example, if you’re a busy guy focused on work but make time for her after work on Friday, it shows you prioritize her without neglecting your life. She’ll think, “Wow, he’s busy but made time for me—I must be important.” That’s a great sign and makes you memorable.
Tip 3: Be a Gentleman to Stand Out
Number three: Be a gentleman. If you’re pursuing a girl, being a gentleman makes you stand out in the best way. She’ll remember small gestures like opening the door or giving her your jacket when she’s cold. These seem small but are incredibly meaningful. For example, on one of my first dates with my boyfriend, we were walking to a coffee shop, and I was cold. He gave me his scarf—I still have it three years later, and I’ve never forgotten that moment. I promise, she’ll remember these gestures years later. Being a gentleman makes you unforgettable and shows you care.
Tip 4: Give Non-Physical Compliments
Number four: Non-physical compliments. Compliments should be genuine—don’t lie to get someone to like you. The best compliments aren’t always about appearance. If she’s attractive, she likely hears “You’re so hot” all the time. Stand out by complimenting something else: “I love your energy,” “You’re so down-to-earth,” “You’re super smart,” or “I love how passionate you are about [topic].” These are memorable because they’re unique. I get flattered by any compliment, but the ones that stand out on my YouTube videos are about how I speak or my knowledge, not my looks. Those mean the most because they’re about what I’m proud of. Focus on non-physical compliments, and she’ll remember them.
Tip 5: Try Something New Together
Number five: Try something new together. We can get caught up in routines, so doing something different feels refreshing. Go on a date you’ve never tried or do something neither of you has done before—it’s less predictable and more fun and memorable. It’s a great way to bond and build a deeper connection because you’re both learning together. If you take her to a cooking class she’s never done and you have an incredible time, she’ll think about it later. I’m a routine, Type-A person, but doing something new adds a memorable factor.
Being spontaneous and thinking on your feet is also attractive. On my first date with my boyfriend, we planned brunch, but it went so well that he suggested we keep going. We went shopping, and it was fun and memorable. In a video I did with a group of girls, every one said their best first date involved a guy being spontaneous and thinking on his feet. It shows confidence, reliability, and the ability to take the lead—qualities women find attractive. You don’t need to go skydiving, but don’t be afraid to try something new to build attraction.
Final Thoughts: Be Your Best Self
That’s my list of five things that will make a woman think about you non-stop. Unlike manipulative tactics or psychology tricks, these tips are about showing up as the best version of yourself. You don’t need to trick someone or be someone you’re not. If you’re new to dating, feel like you’re self-sabotaging, or want to make a great first impression, these are a great place to start. I hope you found this helpful! If you did, give it a thumbs up and subscribe to stay in the loop for new content. Follow me on Instagram at @moodframespace—I love connecting with you there!
In the comments, let me know:
- What do you think of these dating tips?
- Any first date stories or tips you’d add?
- Have you tried being spontaneous on a date?
Thanks for watching, and I’ll see you next time!
FAQ: Common Questions About Building Attraction
Q: How do I make a woman think about me after a date?
A: Be attentive, listen to her, and remember small details to bring up later. Stay independent, show your passions, and be a gentleman with thoughtful gestures. Non-physical compliments and trying new activities together also make you memorable.
Q: How can I build attraction naturally?
A: Focus on being your authentic self—listen actively, have your own life and boundaries, give genuine compliments, and try fun, new experiences together. Avoid manipulative tactics and prioritize connection.
Q: What are some memorable first date ideas?
A: Try something new like a cooking class, a unique café, or a fun activity neither of you has done. Spontaneity, like extending a great date with a walk or new plan, also creates lasting memories.
Anshu Pathak is a passionate writer and avid reader whose love for stories shapes her world. With a heart full of imagination, she weaves tales that resonate with emotion and depth. When she’s not crafting her next piece, you can find her lost in the pages of a novel, exploring new worlds and perspectives. At Moodframe Space, Anshu shares her creative journey, offering insights, stories, and reflections that inspire and connect with readers everywhere.